Wish and Worry Don’t Live Here

Over the course of her lifetime, my dear mother often wished this or worried about that. She was a stable and happy person with little reason to be otherwise. Why did she allow wish and worry to sidetrack her from time to time?  I can still see her as she wrinkled her forehead and hear her as she verbalized her way down some pointless path of wish and worry.

Wishing does not produce the outcome we desire. For example, we might wish to win the big jackpot in the Mega Millions Lottery. The odds are against this happening; specifically the odds of winning the jackpot are one in two hundred and fifty nine million. When we predictably do not win this week’s big drawing, we start all over again with new numbers (the same odds of winning) and another wish to win.

Worry is even more a waste of time and can intrude upon our happiness. Those who worry could fill pages titled “Things I Worry About.” To get started just pick a random item from your list and spend a few unproductive hours on it. Then pick another item and wear yourself out with that one; and so on.

We all learn lessons about life from our parents. They do some things we plan to incorporate into our own lives. There are other traits that we reject and would never practice in our lives. Call what they teach us a combination of good examples and bad examples. My mom, even without intending to do so, taught me the futility of wishing and worrying. Thanks, mom.

About authorbillramsey

During his forty-year professional career, Bill Ramsey wrote magazine articles and business newsletters. Now retired in the mountains of western North Carolina, he writes a blog and has published four books. Bill's 2015 collection of concise, real-life essays is titled "What Do YOU Think?" He has also written "Me Now - Who Next? (The Inspiring Story of a Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery)" and "Now That I Think About It. Bill's books and are available from Amazon.com and on all e-readers. See www.authorbillramsey.com. Follow Bill on Facebook at www.facebook.com/billramseyauthor/
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2 Responses to Wish and Worry Don’t Live Here

  1. Yep. We learn from our parents, even if it’s to not do something they did. It’d be nice to see our parents alive once more to see what they thought of what we’ve become. Yours would certainly be proud. 🙂


    • Yet another point of agreement with you, Joe. Many of us can say we loved and respected our parents. However, few, if being honest, can claim that they were perfect as role models. And so it is with us as aging parents of “kids” who are mid-way through their own lives and parents themselves. The ball just keeps rolling along.


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