Arguing with Yourself

Have you ever had an ongoing argument with yourself? Of course, you have. We all have those arguments. We find ourselves, after weeks or months of a never-ending argument, slowly going crazy.

Examples? Should I quit my current job or stay on? Should I downsize or stay in my present home? Do I want another child or not? Should I go back to school? Do I buy a shiny new car or is the present car okay? Is it time to get a hip replacement? How about cataract surgery and new lenses?

Resolution? Flip a coin? Roll the dice? How about this classic way to “decide?”    

He loves me, he loves me not or She loves me, she loves me not in which one person seeks to determine whether the object of their affection returns that affection. A person playing the game alternately speaks the phrases “He (or she) loves me,” and “He loves me not,” while picking one petal off a flower (usually an ox-eye daisy) for each phrase. The phrase they speak on picking off the last petal supposedly represents the truth between the object of their affection loving them or not. The player typically is motivated by attraction to the person they are speaking of while reciting the phrases. They may seek to reaffirm a pre-existing belief or act out of whimsy. Source attributed here.


Arguing with ourselves will happen to all of us from time to time. These important issues call for resolution; they will not be resolved by plucking petals from a daisy.

Personal Note: There are two personalities involved in the arguments I have with myself. Decisive me is pitted against indecisive me. Too often indecisive me wins. When indecision wins, the argument is placed in my brain vault with all my other unresolved arguments where it will stay until it inevitably returns to call again for a decision.


About authorbillramsey

During his forty-year professional career, Bill Ramsey wrote magazine articles and business newsletters. Now retired in the mountains of western North Carolina, he writes a blog and has published four books. Bill's 2015 collection of concise, real-life essays is titled "What Do YOU Think?" He has also written "Me Now - Who Next? (The Inspiring Story of a Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery)" and "Now That I Think About It. Bill's books and are available from and on all e-readers. See Follow Bill on Facebook at
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