What I Want For You

My personal hopes and dreams are mine. Your hopes and dreams are yours. My wishing something for you cannot make my wish happen.

What I want for you would be offered honestly and could prove beneficial to you. My intentions are good. I may want you to stop smoking, lose weight, live on a budget, get a job you enjoy, find a true-love relationship, and be at peace.

My constantly mentioning what I think you need to do won’t cause them to happen. My calling you out about them could cause  our relationship to suffer and that is not what I want. My hopes and dreams for you will only coincidentally be realized if those same hopes and dreams are yours and you actively seek to achieve them.

So, I will remain quietly hopeful that you will identify what you want from life and then set out to achieve those important goals.

Personal Note: I have found it to be particularly difficult to remain quiet when it comes to our own “kids” (average age fifty). I did provide my sound fatherly advice when they were children. Some of that advice might better have been called rules. Although I will always be their father, my role changed many years ago.

I realize that they must live their own lives, make their own choices, and live with the consequences. While they occasionally still ask for my thoughts on some subject, I give it with the following caveat, “This is what I did when I lived through a comparable situation.” Never do I tell them specifically what to do. They seem to appreciate that approach.

About authorbillramsey

During his forty-year professional career, Bill Ramsey wrote magazine articles and business newsletters. Now retired in the mountains of western North Carolina, he writes a blog and has published four books. Bill's 2015 collection of concise, real-life essays is titled "What Do YOU Think?" He has also written "Me Now - Who Next? (The Inspiring Story of a Traumatic Brain Injury Recovery)" and "Now That I Think About It. Bill's books and are available from Amazon.com and on all e-readers. See www.authorbillramsey.com. Follow Bill on Facebook at www.facebook.com/billramseyauthor/
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1 Response to What I Want For You

  1. Calvin Mitchell says:

    Good thought and approach.

    Like

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